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Getting ready for a different rhythm to my life

Sunday July 27th, 2008 by fathersez

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Madison dropped a nice bombshell last week. She declared that she was quitting (or taking a leave of absence) and focussing on her priorities. I have been sort of expecting something like this ever since she wrote some about some of the “pulls and pushes in her life” way back in January and February 08. 

Her life is going to change in more ways than one. She’ll have to find a new rhythm as opposed to the “go to work, come back from work” kind of thing. 

This is what I have been going through the past few weeks. Finding a new rhythm at least mentally. Unlike Madison, or Ms. SVB over at the Digerati Life or Trent at the Simple Dollar, my exit from the 9-5 working life has been a little involuntary. It was also not quite the same as the Snarky Chica’s walking away from corporate life.  

My case is a mutual parting of ways.  

A wise friend told me a long time ago, that a salaried guy would have to be sacked before he can do something worthwhile on his own. Well, I am finally getting the chance now.

For the longest time, I have wanted to be on my own. Independent. Not subservient to any of the more often than not, silly corporate rules and regulations. In March 08, I wrote a guest article in Free Money Finance (my first ever guest post) on how I intended to quit the rat race. Looks like it’s time to put the plan into action.   

I have now crossed the door. The actual day to carry my things out of the office has not been fixed yet and I am quite frankly eagerly waiting for that day. 

My wife, my in-house motivator and a practical optimist says that this would probably be the best thing that has happened to the Fathersez family.  As I look for my new rhythm of my life, there will be effects on the children. Though the family knows of this, details have not been discussed with the kids. 

This coming Saturday, I’ll have to talk to the youngest two girls. Then the boy. I am scared, as all salaried bozos would be if they were to lose the security blanket of the monthly pay check.

I must thank Ms. SVB, Trent, Snarky Chica and now Madison who have clearly shown that life will go on. 

As Winston Churchill said, “Most of our fears will never come to pass.” 

I’ll keep you posted.

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13 Comments for “Getting ready for a different rhythm to my life”

On July 27, 2008
At 10:57 pm

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On July 27, 2008
At 11:45 pm


Best of luck on your new road in life and work! Yes, I too, was terribly anxious about what would happen next after leaving corporate life to try out doing my own thing. I was nervous enough when my husband left his job the year before, and by me leaving my job a year later, it was tremendously nerve-wracking! It doesn’t help that the economy has slid into the drain at around the same time.

But what’s important is that we had a plan before we made the changes and so far, we’re executing according to plan. Things are looking up but we’ll only probably start reaping any meaningful rewards by next year.

We’re giving it a shot and seeing how far it’ll take us. What’s wonderful is that our initial anxiety is being replaced bit by bit by joy and a new found balance in our lives.

[…] Dollar Plan just “retired”, prompting Fathersez to consider making changes as well. I also “retired” back in February, but not in the real sense of the word. […]

by dawn
On July 28, 2008
At 6:57 am

Change is scary …
And incredibly exciting!
I think we do the things we need to do when we are ready to do them - And you seem ready to do this!
Have fun with it!!!
from your old blogger friend dawn @ iowahippiechick

by KCLau
On July 28, 2008
At 9:07 am

Congratulations! Knowledge is your security.
I believe that you’ll be doing great being “independent”.
I wish you all the best in life.

P/s please don’t hesitate to contact me if you need anything.

On July 28, 2008
At 10:11 am

I admire your courage to step out of the rat race and giving something else a try. Sure, it might help that someone is helping you find the door, but you could always look for another one. Instead, you are making the decision to control your destiny.

I’d like to do something similar one day, and maybe I can when this pile of debt is replaced with a pile of savings, and my wife is working to pick up some insurance. We’re still a couple years away from that even being feasible, but a guy can dream, can’t he?!

Keep us posted on your progress!

On July 28, 2008
At 10:45 am

@Frugal Dad,

Thanks for your soothing words. Courage may not be the right word, as there was a little push factor. Still I have been preparing myself for quite a while now, and with caring for my family as my top priority, I have all the motivation to make it. And God Willing, I shall.

@KC, Thanks, man. You have played a pivotal role in all these. (You must never underestimate the power of your blog.)


Great to hear from you, my all time favourite hippie. And bless you too for your blessings.

@Ms. SVB, Thank you for your kind words. Yes, it’s scary. I am holding on to the fact that others before me have done it.

Thanks a ton, guys for your words of support and encouragement.

Best regards

by mamadou
On July 29, 2008
At 8:08 am

What was written is fact of life. Your courage to quit 9-5 jobs really enlighten me. I would follow you soon. Thanks

by MissXynix1805
On July 30, 2008
At 12:18 pm

Wish you all the best, Daddy Cool =)

On August 1, 2008
At 10:05 pm

I love that you sound relatively serene for such a major life change. I wish you the best of luck for a smooth transition, and look forward to reading all about it!

On August 2, 2008
At 12:07 pm

Good luck on the next part of your journey!


On August 5, 2008
At 12:19 am

Even though we ended up finding the door in a different way… I think we’ll both be much happier with our new lives!

On August 12, 2008
At 12:35 am

[…] Getting ready for a different rhythm to my life I have a partner in crime. Although we took two different paths, Father Sez and I will be able to trade tips about our new non-working lifestyles. […]

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