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The costly PF mistakes and blunders I have made, and why you should not repeat my mistakes – Part 1

Tuesday January 22nd, 2008 by fathersez

The lessons that I so wish I had learnt and mastered much earlier in my life are :- 

-         paying myself first and

-         forming or joining a correct peer group.

I have now set myself on a crusade, mostly through this blog, to ensure that my children learn these two lessons much earlier in their lives. 

There have been other mistakes. Lots of them. Perhaps writing about them may help others. The costlier ones will be covered here, in no particular order. 

Mistake – Not having a written budget 

I have never been “broke” since I started working, Thank God. This has not been due to adroit financial management, but thankfully, as a direct result of my background. I come from a poor family. And the early difficult years have been embedded deeply into my psyche.  

Though I have always spent less than I earned, there was no system to it. There were no investments systematic or otherwise.  

I started saving I think, around the time, my second girl was born. Not saving what I should, rather an amount that I thought I could “afford”. I have never done a spending budget, personal or family until recently. 

I now see and have started enjoying the advantages of having a budget 

We may think we know where our money is going, but believe me, we are only fooling ourselves. Though payments like mortgage payments, insurances etc., can be tracked, it is the expenses in the “others” category that end up draining us.    

By drawing up a budget, our expenses can be broken up into several categories and tracked category by category. This way, the management is less complicated and drainers can be identified and tackled.   

For example, my family now knows the amount we spend on phone bills. It is unduly high and is being reduced now. 

Club subscriptions that we have paid for years while hardly using them have been cancelled. 

Petrol bills have been cut down by converting the car into a NGV. 

And so on. 

The danger of not having a budget is that you don’t quite realize where the money is going and blame the wrong people or look at the wrong reasons.   

I used to have some quite messy quarrels with my wife over this. Only after the budget was drawn up and discussed have we both realized where our biggest drainers were. 

We had debt levels that were too high. This led us to seek cheaper financing sources that did not work out. So now we are disposing off our investment property.

I do believe that the actions taken since drawing up our budget will have a lot more positive impact on my family’s financial well being than the steps taken in the last 3 years! 

As an additional bonus, now there is so much better alignment between my wife and me, and in fact, the children in managing our finances. 

Don’t repeat my mistake, please draw up your budget. Monitor your spending. Even if it is only for keeping you informed, do it. 

And if it is “how to budget” or more “why must budget” information that you need, please read this excellent and most timely post by Free Money Finance.  

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4 Comments for “The costly PF mistakes and blunders I have made, and why you should not repeat my mistakes – Part 1”

On January 23, 2008
At 1:07 am

Sometimes budgets can be scary when we see just how little cash flow we have available. But they’re also good for feeling in control of what we do have.

Way to be upfront about your pf mistakes. We all make them, but sometimes it can be really embarrassing to admit them.

by FMF
On January 23, 2008
At 4:51 am

Thanks for your comments on my piece!

by fathersez
On January 23, 2008
At 9:43 am

Mrs. M,

Our first budget scared the #$%^ out of my wife and me. Not only was free cash flow negligible, our gearing was at a level the Enron guys would have been proud of.

Admitting the mistakes is tough. (There are some family and friends who actually think that I am a financially smart cookie…. hehe).

The intention is to try to fix these in my children’s minds, so that they don’t repeat them. (And the anonymity helps.)

And finally, candour is something that I have learnt and admired in many other blogs, including yours.

by fathersez
On January 23, 2008
At 9:45 am


I should thank you. The resources you have made available at a click of the mouse is incredible.

Now I fully understand, why Punny Money described FMF as he did sometime ago. (or was it GRS?. It doesn’t matter. His description was just perfect.)

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