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What does a father do when your daughter unexpectedly calls and tells you she had an accident?

Monday April 27th, 2009 by fathersez

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Thank God, Along’s accident was nothing like this. Just a little more than a fender bender. 

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We have five children and each of them are different. The eldest is very reserved with us, while she is like a house on fire with her friends. Her conversations with me are monosyllabic. Most of my text book learned attempts to ask questions and to have a conversation have failed.  

Anyway, a couple of Saturdays ago, I received this unexpected call from Along. Luckily at that time, I had stopped after the Jalan Duta Toll and was waiting for a friend. (Our family is in Seremban, whilst my 2 elder girls work in PJ and are sharing a rented house. On this particular day, I was in KL.) 

She asked me if I was free. Of course, for my daughter, I’ll always be free. Then she dropped the bombshell!  

“Papa, Along just had an accident!” 

How do you describe your feelings and thoughts when you hear something like this? To say that my heart dropped a beat, maybe a few beats, does not quite describe my feelings. This is something all parents dread. A type of call that no one wants to receive from their loved ones. 

My first response was to ask her if she was all right. She told me she was, but her car was teruk! I told her not to worry about the car, but just tell me if she was all right. Then I asked where the accident had happened. Luckily it was in one of the minor roads in her housing estate and was not blocking any traffic. 

She asked me to talk to the motorcyclist she had knocked down. That guy was talking excitedly and I got a little worried. I told him that I would be there in about 20 – 25 minutes and asked him to wait, which, thank God, he agreed. 

To cut a long story short, I got to the scene of the accident after about 25 minutes. His bike was no longer rideable, though it could be pushed. I hugged my daughter and asked her again if she was all right.  The young man, Harry, was a very decent Sarawakian. He had been knocked off the bike and had some bruises. I told him that I was very sorry about all this and what should I do. He asked for some money as a deposit to repair the bike and that he would call me after the full repair cost was known. I agreed, though it was a possible open ended arrangement.

We exchanged contact numbers and I told him that I lived in Seremban.  I asked Along to go home, keep the car at home and not to drive the car till we got it repaired and sorted out. Harry asked one of the passing motorcyclists to give him a tow to his mechanic’s shop.  

This is the first accident my daughter has had and I pray that it would be the last. I am most thankful to God, that:- 

-         no one was seriously injured in this accident, 

-         the accident happened in a minor low traffic road, 

-         it was not raining heavily at that time,  

-         I was in KL and not too far way so that I could quickly turn up at the scene and try to resolve matters and  

-         Harry was a very decent human being who though injured was most understanding that the event was indeed an accident. 

I cannot be thankful enough to God for having given us a simple test in this whole episode.  

And another thing, karma does go around.

About three months ago, a motorcyclist, a young boy waiting for his SPM results, knocked into our car whilst I was driving with my wife. He had no license and had taken his sister’s bike without permission. Our car door was badly dented. Still, we took him to a clinic, paid for his bills, paid for the bike repair and sent him back home. I think he could not believe his luck! And his father, a retired Army man, thanked us profusely. 

Maybe this was why my daughter got off lucky. 

And to my eldest daughter, Along, I say this. No one will love you more than your Mama and Papa. Your safety, well being and happiness are always foremost in our mind. Yes, you have had this accident, which in all probability could have been avoided. When the car is repaired and road worthy again, continue your driving.  

Just be more careful.   

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4 Comments for “What does a father do when your daughter unexpectedly calls and tells you she had an accident?”

by MrChildren24
On April 27, 2009
At 9:58 am

Luckily nothing happened to your ‘Along’.

On April 27, 2009
At 11:28 am

if ur boy is 15, then ah long must be older than 18 ? may be its time to reset your mind that she is a ’special’ friend of yours and no longer just a daughter. What would you do when your friend doesn’t respond to you as close as you hope to be ? You may not need to try too hard anymore, its just the way it is.

but from this story alone, I can feel the closeness within your family which is great. Imagine if you were in a meeting and replied “no I am not free now!”, who would she call then ?

by Jessen
On April 27, 2009
At 12:08 pm

Thank God… If only everyone drives carefully and the road condition is good, accident can be minimize to the max…

On April 27, 2009
At 1:24 pm

@ Jessen,

Yes, thank God. My daughter and the motorcyclist and myself were all truly blessed that day.

@ mtsen,

Micheal, Thank you for your comments. I try my best to be close to my children, become something like their best friends. And of course, the most they need from me now is time.

@Mr. Children,

Yes, thank God. Just like Along is my daughter, the motocyclist was someone’s son and also someone’s husband. Thank God everything ended all right.

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